Sunday, April 3, 2016

Grief After Giving up Our Dog











It's ok to grieve. It's ok to feel sick to your stomach, worthless, devastated. Whatever you're feeling - it's ok because it's you and you've just been through a tremendous loss.

Tremendous because our dog meant something to me, and grieving is thus warranted. I gave up our dog for adoption yesterday. He will lead a good life, but that doesn't take the current pain away. I didn't get to give him one last hug or say goodbye - perhaps I did say it but just can't remember. But he knows I loved him. And I gave him plenty of kisses and tight hugs prior to him hopping out that door. So he knows... I hope.

Amidst my grief I went to one of my favorite places in the world, the library. I got a few books on grief and hope to begin reading one of them tonight. But they don't take the pain away. If anything, starting to read last night made me cry even more because that particular book focuses on how amazing a dog is. And it's true, but that only makes me feel worse for giving him up and being completely alone now.

Amidst my intense grief last night, after trying to read, I decided to take some action and look up some resources available to people separated from their dogs. Below are the resources I found helpful, and perhaps you'll find them helpful, too:

Tufts University's Pet Loss Hotline, if you need to talk. Their website has some helpful resources as well.

Transcending Loss: Understanding the Lifelong Impact of Grief and How to Make It Meaningful, by Ashley Davis Prend, A.C.S.W. Highly compassionate author. Mainly focuses on the death of a loved one, but does give a great overview of the stages of grief.

Get your doggie fix by seeing burmese mountain dog Waffle dorkin' out and lovin' it. Once I was feeling much better I even put a cute picture of a pup on my desktop wallpaper.

When all else fails, go on Pinterest.

(Photo from Pixabay)

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